Not long ago, some of the students who frequent my favorite hot spot started talking with one another and sharing knowledge. That's one of the things I like about this particular location. In addition to it's being a diverse community, its full of people who are very much aware of their similarities. And because they are aware, they see the value in knowledge sharing.
On this particular day, I had just introduced two students to one another, both foreign students striving to earn their marks and launch a successful career. Brilliant, advanced degree students that they are, it didn't take a lot for me to get the two to see their similarities and strike up quite a lively conversation about the education process, transitioning to the job search, and filtering things as you go about doing, and then making yourself qualified as an employment candidate in the U.S.
I don't try to counsel my contacts about H-B1 issues. Immigration is not my forte. But I listened as the two discussed the timeline that's involved and the various types of permits to do first one thing, then another. Apparently the F1 allows a person to come into the States in order to study for a period of time. I don't know that it needs to be renewed. But at a point in time, it expires and you need to have either moved on to graduation, another school and schooling, an internship, found a sponsor, or landed a J-O-B.
There's another option that one student refuses to get involved in. Getting married in order to become a citizen. And then there's a green card.
My acquaintances discussed these things and threw terminology back and forth at one another. I was drowning in a sea of immigration terms. There's a time to speak, a time to contribute, and a time to contribute by just listening. They would not toss me a lifesaver so I completely backed out of the conversation and just listened -- and learned. What I gained was an appreciation of the many pressures that impact these friends. There is something very subtle in the issues they face that they do not discuss with others. In addition to using them to learn more about their cultures, I learned some major lessons about things they do not discuss.
The PressuresUsually, the foreign students come to the United States alone. Family and friends are left at home. Our heroes venture here with whatever language skills they have, determined to improve those once here in total immersion. They have whatever knowledge is available about our monetary system and the values of our representations of money. Plastic seems to be universal.
They are thrust into the vagaries of sorting out safe neighborhoods and sociable communities. They are tasked with accomplishing what our city officials have yet to master -- making sense of our transportation system and knowing which public transport lines stop running at certain hours, which ones begin operating on an hourly schedule, and which seem to have their own schedule, according to the driver's whim.
Those are just the social sides of living here. There's also campus life, studying, attending classes and taking notes, becoming socialized and acclimated to the university environment, earning grades, turning in reports, making stellar grades on examinations in order to bring honor to the family, esteem to self, and increased employability, in addition to tenure in the selected course of study. The important issue of campus life is actually learning the content of the courses so that it translates into real world, real work skills.
Language seems to be the major issue. A few, after observing me for a time and my interactions with others, have grown to trust me and my nature. One sought me out as an ESL tutor. Unfortunately, my schedule at that time did not have a reasonable structure and I had to decline. My distant friend does the best they can in learning from all-English textbooks, lectures, notes, and study cards in order to survive each semester's slate of classes and curriculum. I regret having to have said "No" but am glad that I was responsible enough to both of us to have done so.
My friends do not discuss any of these pressures with me. We discuss news, politics as they affect us, little things of fun, the music playing at the hot spot, or what we saw on the Web. We discuss the movies and I learn about current entertainment. We share computer knowledge in order that our systems will continue working properly and effectively. And I learn more about their cultures.
My friends must feel I'm so obtuse that there's such insensitivity to their strivings. Or they may feel relieved that it seldom becomes a conscious thought for me. It means they have succeeded in keeping these pressures under control and are projecting what they want -- a professional demeanor. That is what has attracted me to them, however, and they never needed to fret on that account.
ListeningBut a few days ago, I made a point of merely listening as the two new acquaintances got to know one another and discussed the foreign student's life: taking their licensing exams at the right sequence of time so that they would not lose their student status but still had H-B1 available, standing for dissertation challenges, submitting papers for publication, taking practice exams.
As the time pressures and sequences became even more plain, I remembered a discussion that was started by someone who does not seem to be at all aware of these issues, especially as they affect a career coach's clients. The career coach expressed anxiety at seeing their students reach their deadlines and in spite of the coaching, the job offers were not extended. That consequence meant return to the homeland with the degree but no U.S. job. The career coach realized the diligence that was given not only to studies and work life, but also to job search and research about potential jobs and companies. The career coach was extremely sensitive to the networking on behalf of the student. And the networking kept meeting the same outright resistance that was quite plain. The resistance was political selfishness. The recruiters simply did not want to share a fee with the coach and did not want to see the coach earn a fee. So the recruiters said there were no openings.
Unfortunately, the person who started the conversation was anxious to have their own ego inflated. After having read the career coach's concerns, the conversation was characterized as career coaches who work with people who are simply not employable and never will be. What a landmine that is not only to the career coach's credibility but also to the employability of
anyone who says they were a student of the coach! But that is definitely one way to influence people into seeing things through dark-colored glasses, whether they have the correct prescription or not.
That person's discussion taught another lesson about listening. Listen not only for the details, the nuances of which you were not aware, but also listen with critical thinking skills to hear how the pronouncement causes the speaker to seem knowledgeable and superior -- or even whether that's part of the agenda.
Beyond Cultural PressuresMy hot spot friends are brave, intelligent, and strong survivors. They still aver that conditions in the United States are much better than at home. Home is (and they hesitate in order to find the right word) "different" and things are just not quite the same.
These people are observant. They are astute. There are terms that are part of every vocabulary and lifestyles that appear to be universal. Yet my hot spot friends are very accepting and open to conversing with all manner of people -- just so they do not encroach on the precious study schedule and time.
They see the street people who come into the hot spot. The telltale clothing and hairdos speak volumes about what is obvious but keep secret the details of how and why these results occurred. The fact that most of the street people are of a certain race is also obvious. The danger from street life, drug addicts, gang members, and people who are simply different also comes into plain view. Still, the students deal with these situations as professionals. They stay focused. They allow intervention for a brief time. If they cannot accommodate, they say so quietly and the street person quietly, politely moves on.
Is it any wonder that I enjoy these people? Here, I can find nearly complete acceptance and diversity simply because it is part of the culture. Live and let live.
StationsWe do not discuss it. But it must be obvious that certain classes of people and races are
put into particular categories, constrained to toil and labor to rise out of that strata but condemned to dwell there until the end of their days. Only Herculean efforts will change their descending fate. But
here is where more of the differences that
I see are not what my friends perceive. I see a road of hopeless destruction and waste of what could have been valuable talent. No doubt my friends see the talent that is at a certain station and deserves respect for being at that station, wherever it is. There is a place for each person in society and a particular function for that station that serves the social fabric. But what my friends see is that in the United States, one has a choice about where that station and functionality lies. And just because you were born into one place does not necessarily mean that will be a life sentence.
Informed RelationshipsSo when I encounter my hot spot friends, both domestically grown and transplants, I appreciate the work and effort that goes into their endeavors. I enjoy the fact that they are willing to share their culture with me so that I can be more sensitive to things that impact them and more worldly in regard to people, how to relate to people, and not take things for granted. I do not rely on myths but on accurate recitation. And I see them in a slightly different light than before.
AccomplishmentThe ones who have come to our domestic universities to earn their advanced degrees are probably the first in the family to make this accomplishment. If they return home at the end of five years with the degree but no U.S. job, it should not be seen as evidence of their being unemployable. It should be seen as a person who ventured to do more than the average. They earned major distinctions and survived to the end. But market pressures forbade them a place in the U.S. economic mix for employment here. Whatever employer avails theirself of the talents offered by these graduates, that employer will have selected a plum.
Viva
foreign students, diversity, acceptance, mobility, advancement,